Why being a single mom is much more challenging in Indian-Subcontinent
India, Bangladesh, Pakistan, and Afghanistan. They all are divided by border, but when it comes to oppressing women. They are all brothers from the same mother. However, I am not here to discuss women’s oppression in these countries. This topic is well touched on and researched by many competent people. This article expresses my views toward single mothers, mainly from the Indian Subcontinent. It explains why being a single mom in this region is much more challenging than in any other.
Before I start talking about this, I need to give a little glance at my own life. My mother is a single mom and is still fighting with the whole world just for us. My mother and father divorced when I was ten and my younger brother was seven. After the divorce, our life changed 360 degrees, and my mom was instantly declared a whore. The declaration came from her own mother. The question is, why did she was called whore? I mean, she must have done something, right? LOL, NO! The only fault was that she wanted to be free from a cage and have some freedom. The after situation of our life was devastating, which is why I probably never want to return to my ‘Childhood.’ However, I am not here to share my childhood traumas. We can do that later if my reader friends want me to.
Let’s talk about single moms! My male readers, especially from Indian Subcontinent. Answer my one question, what comes to your mind when you hear these two words, ‘Single mom’? Let me tell you what comes to your mind! You start to picture a horny and sexually active woman who is always ready to go to bed with anyone.
Moreover, they are easygoing objects. Many would disagree that this is not what comes to your mind. Let me tell you how I know about this; I also used to think just like this until I saw struggles and fights of a single mother.
Yes! You guys heard it right! In fact, I used to think that my mom was a whore, and she went to bed with different men. However, when somehow, I started to live with my mother. That was when I realized she was the purest form of love I could get.
Undoubtedly, being a single mother is a challenging job, regardless of your region. However, it gets tougher to survive if you belong to an Indian-Subcontinental country. Because as per people from my region’s perspective, if a marriage breaks up, it is definitely the wife’s fault. She must have done anything, which is why her husband left her. It doesn’t matter if she was a victim of domestic violence or verbal abuse; still, she has to secure her marriage first. God forbid! If any woman fails to do so and demands her life autonomy, she is a whore.
If we count common religions in Indian Subcontinent, there will be roughly 4–5 religions. However, the faith where women’s control over their life is less than zero is Islam. This is why Indian-Subcontinental Muslim women faced more hardships than Western Christian women. And the cherry on top is if that woman is a single mother! People make strange assumptions about that woman’s life story, and the most disgusting thing is that most people, regardless of gender, assume if that woman got divorced, Then it is obviously her fault.
Let’s face it! Being a single mother, regardless of the region, is a tough job because you have to give your offspring the love of both parents and do the duty of both parents as well. However, if a woman belongs to the Indian Subcontinent, her job gets much more challenging because of the oppressive mentality of society towards women.
I dedicate this writing to my mother, who is still fighting for us, and to all single mothers around the globe, especially my lovely friend Devin from the USA.
